Finding Your Inner Voice
Where the heck is it?
In my coaching practice when I work with clients who are facing difficult personal and professional transitions, they will often say, “Where the heck is my inner voice when I need it most?” Sometimes the only internal voice that they hear is one of criticism and/or fear. What I tell them is what I will tell you, and that is that your inner voice is like a muscle. And if it’s never been used, then you can’t expect to instantaneously summon it up and use it to lift a 2,000 lb. decision! What you can do is to begin working with it slowly, getting it into shape, and the very first step to that is to get your life “in sync.”
Getting your life “in sync” seems like an easy enough goal, but in reality so many people are just stuck in the same place, and they are running as fast as they can. It’s as if they are on a treadmill, with the resistance increasing day by day. They don’t reach and grow, they don’t seek and go, and they don’t dream. And while this was never their intention, sadly it is their present-day reality. Things are like this because they have yet to take the time to clarify what it is that they really want. And without such clarity and direction, they remain out of sync.
Add to that the fact that most of us have developed habitual ways of thinking, speaking, and acting, and these habits often run counter to what we really want. Maybe our thinking is magical or maybe it’s not positive and empowering. Our inner voices may be muted, distorted and/or demeaning to whom we are. Further, our repetitive behaviors may be working to reinforce where we have always been (bad eating habits, bad exercise habits, bad drinking habits,) and are not doing a thing to help move us forward to where we want to be.
So how does this relate to you finding your inner voice? Well, when we are not in sync from the inside to the outside, then there will be too much cacophonous tumult to let our true inner voice emerge.
How about you? Do you have an inner voice that you listen to, or is yours in hiding as well, buried under the frenetic pace of your life? In coaching I tell my clients not to worry, but rather to focus on getting in sync with themselves. We probe and discover what it is they really want, and then check that against what they say and what they do to get everything working in harmony. And more often than not, as they get into greater alignment, their inner voice will emerge and help them to feel confident that they are moving in the right direction. . . . for them.
“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls” - Howard Thurman
Liz Hoffmann BA, MBA, CPC is a successful Executive and Personal coach and owner of Atlas Coaching LLC in Fairfield. Liz coaches her clients to successfully navigate change and find greater satisfaction in their lives. Her expertise is in relationship challenges, career situations, and health. Her coaching style is fun and interactive, and Liz’s true passion is in helping individuals to shed self-limiting beliefs, negative thought patterns, and unnecessary stress.